The disguise of failure can often deceive people into thinking that failure is actually fatal. When in fact, failure is not fatal, nor is success final.
It is important to have a healthy perspective about life, success, and struggles, when one experiences failure, because of the frustration and disappointment often associated with it. However, failures are just lessons on how to get something done right; while at the same time, they increases your knowledge on what will not work. Some things that you may have thought were failures were actually successes. You may have looked at the things you’ve blown and felt like you made a complete donkey of yourself, but in actuality, those failures opened your eyes and made you a better person.
Some things you may have succeeded in didn’t make you as happy as you assumed they it would, because you may have succeeded at the expense of your integrity, or losing some close friend, or compromising your personal convictions for the ultimate prize. Therefore, success and/or failure can be relative based on how you view them. A failure can possibly be a blessing in disguise, or the reality of one bad dream.
You should never use your experiences of failure as a permission slip to use inaccuracy to define yourself as a person. Neither, should you compare your success to any of your contemporaries. The person who may have achieved the most, has only achieved a fraction of what each of us are capable of. Many of us haven’t seen the tremendous talent in us emerge because we are so busy muttering over what isn’t working. Thus, we become blinded by frustration and disappointment. Failure isn’t holding you back from accomplishing your dreams; the fear of failure is. Failures are simply miscalculations, or as children normally say, “Boo-boos.” I believe you should never punish a learner, and therefore, one should never sentence oneself as being an idiot because they may not have succeeded the first few times.
“He who fears being conquered is sure of defeat.”
~Napoleon Bonaparte
Although people are wired for success; they are oftentimes programmed for failure. This apparently, is the disposition of a large segment of the free world. We have been conditioned to fear failure, as if failure cannot be rectified or changed. Failure is not a ‘period’ indicating the end of a sentence or a chapter. Failure is a question mark pointing to answers. Action should be the result of failure, which gives you the power to change the circumstances or the situation.
Some suffering, resulting from the fear of failure, comes from attachments. Your attachment to things will inevitably lead to unpredictable thoughts and behavior. When you give up those attachments, you may feel like things are falling apart. And, this can be the seed of your fear. But in actuality, this is when things begin to take their natural course.
As it appears from where I stand, you have two choices in life. One of those choices is to trust in the awesome God who is able to turn an embryo into a baby, who knows how to turn an acorn into a great Oak tree, who knows how to keep the planets revolving around the sun; and who placed the ability in you to do whatever you can believe you are capable of doing, or you can simply do nothing. You have no options if you decide to quit. But, if you are single-minded and have an indomitable will to keep moving forward, then your options for a solution are inevitable.
What kind of person would think that the God of all-power, which knows how to produce a flower and push the beautiful colors into it, is somehow not as big and powerful or capable enough to create them as the most powerful, creative, and awesome creation this world has ever seen? If you are quick to own your failures, you must be even quicker to own your ability to correct them.
Failure is a mindset, but so is success. Because you may have made a mistake, it doesn’t mean that you are a failure. Don’t take setbacks personally. Failure is not a personality characteristic until you believe it to be one. Although what you do may not bring you the results you want, it doesn’t mean you are a failure. You must be completely engaged in the effort, because the kind of effort you put in, will be the quality of the results you receive.
Failure is simply an indication that you should do something different than what or how you have been doing it. The degree to which you did not succeed will be the greater degree to which you will succeed, if you refuse to accept failure as final.
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