There is one thing all human beings have in common, besides being human beings: We are all good at hiding who we really are inside. As children, we had no clue that our parents or caretakers taught us the fundamentals in concealing our true identity. Moreover, we had next to no opportunity to disagree with the cultural and societal arrangements made for our lives. We are constantly bombarded with messages to remind us to bathe, brush our teeth, perfume, feed, rest, and decorate our bodies with fashionable clothing so we can feel happy and successful. We live in a culture that reinforces this belief. A great number of people living in this present era are subjected to this philosophy and as a result, we treat ourselves as primarily a package whose contents are insignificant.
It would appear easier to define ourselves by the external packaging rather than by the inner qualities, which we are unable to perceive with our five senses. When everyone else is perceived as defining him or herself this way, it seems easier to conform rather than be different. Being different is not bad, unless you have been raised in a dominate culture that teaches it is. No two people on planet earth are the same. Therefore, it is good to celebrate yourself-for you are a unique creation of God with not only inalienable rights, but also unlimited potential.
One question I often hear from others is, “How do I get better at what I feel I am so lousy at performing?” Everyone wants to be better at what they do, especially when it involves others. Married men want to learn how to be better husbands and fathers to their children. Women want to be better wives and mothers to their children. People want to do their jobs better. Students want to learn how to get better grades. Musicians want to be better musicians and the list goes on and on. I have never met a person who did not want to get better at anything, even if it was just life. Everyone has this intrinsic desire to get more, to improve or to learn more than what they presently know. How to tap into the strength to perform on a higher level eludes most people. However, what needs to be understood is that the ability is present, but the inhibitors are concealed.
Performance inhibitors are things that stop us from reaching our personal best and living the kind of life we would like to live. Nevertheless, I have learned that being capable of performing your personal best does not make you able. Many intelligent and skillful people are capable of doing many things that would rival the best of them in their fields. However, having the intellect and the talent to perform at your best is not a license to do so without the inner belief you should have in yourself and your abilities. Most people are unaware of the inhibitors that slow their progress to a crawl.
I understand that you want more out of life. In addition, I realize how you want to improve your relationship with your significant other, but you cannot do it on your old system of belief. You can never go higher than your present information level. The data you have heard and what you have come to believe has generated enough faith and belief to get you where you are today. Your present information cannot generate enough faith to stretch your abilities no more than what they are already stretched. Moreover, where you are on the spectrum does not mean that you cannot go further. Nevertheless, once you are able to identify your inhibitors, follow these three simple steps to move from ground zero.
- Pump yourself with information using energy words such as faith, self-confidence, commitment, and conviction, which are conducive to catapulting you to reach peak levels.
- Force yourself to speak words that are constructive and productive. Speak words that will reconstruct your belief system and your words will become self-perpetual-producing a dynamo of internal energy that will push you to new levels.
- Read. Reading is an investment into the most progressive component of your intellectual apparatus…your brain. Never underestimate the potential of your brain. If God blessed you with a brain, use it. Your mind expands with information. Books are a seed. What you do with its information, is your harvest.
Make this information a daily rehearsal, and it will be like winning an Academy Award every day.