Dysfunctional is a word to indicate the failure to function properly or a disturbance in the usual pattern of activity. In other words, there is a breakdown in the standard operational system of a person, family, business, or machine.
We live in a dysfunctional society where every family experiences it and every system or machine will eventually surrender its flawless record to it. Nevertheless, how do we manage our failure to function properly especially when we are facing challenges that seem to match up well with our personal strength? How can we account for the many advantages lost because of our ignorance?
I have embraced the fact that where there is an absence of functionality, dysfunction steps out of its shadow as a surrogate standard. People psychologically adjust to things falling apart in their lives, and thus they anticipate the failure. Therefore, they can find no reason to combat against what they consider the inevitable. On the other hand, these people most likely have not been tutored by a well-informed mentor on how life is supposed to work.
Most people do not realize this, but marriage was not intended to be combat zone. Nor were people given a limit as to the amount of money one can make. These are just a couple of areas where our system of belief breaks down and fails to function according to plan. If a person does not submit to their own devised standard to govern their life, one will be automatically adopted involuntarily.
You cannot have dysfunction without first having functionality. In other words, your marriage once worked, your income once sufficed, your self-esteem was once up, your dream was once alive, etc. You see, things had to function before there was a breakdown. How can a person manage the severity of their dysfunction? Easy, stop making excuses for why things fail to go according to plan. I realize that a person cannot control everything, but the things they can control should be personally pursued, placing a firm handle on it while guiding its intended outcome. Facing failure is not failure at all; capitulating to it is! This write up is entitled, “The Death of Dysfunction.”