If you do not know who you are, what will you say when others ask who are you? This is the era of knowing yourself. Knowing who you are will help you to understand your integral design and why you are the way you are. People spend a lot of time trying to figure out who they are and spend little time enjoying what they love. Sometimes, a person’s hobby is the clue to their design. However, many people work so hard at trying to make a living, that living makes trying laborious. Thus, they end up living someone else’s image of themselves hoping that someone will come and inform them of who they really are. This is not a case of amnesia, but a case of lost identity. Lacking the essential identifiable markers causes people to live a vicious cycle of self-defeat and insecurity. Your effort of self-awareness and self-discovery should not only show up as sweat in you undershirt, but in the character you project.
What involuntary image are you projecting? Moreover, while you are trying to protect your image, whose job is it to protect you? Finding your style and learning how to get the right fit for you is an indication that you just may have figured you out. Do you feel as if you are getting closer? When you are comfortable in your own skin, you are not scanning the earth to find someone to agree with your personal self-depiction. You liking you, and knowing yourself is the epiphany of relevancy. Being comfortable with who you are will never feel and look so good.
In life, people experience all kinds of defeats, frustrations and disappointments because of bad choices and mistakes, which seem to assault their confidence. These things are a part of life, and should not be used as weapons to destroy ones self-belief. It is an ongoing battle to prevent self-destruction; and a flawed self-image puts you at an even greater risk of doing so. You must become solid as a rock when it comes to being absolutely, unequivocally certain of your person. If anyone asks for proof of your identity, just tell them that your ID can be found in the way you conduct your life—with character and integrity.
People who are yet searching for a sense of identity usually have integrity problems and character flaws. As these people continue to allow others to define them, they are like Chameleons that changes their color based on their environment. It must be miserable living a life of uncertainty—never knowing who you may be from one day to the next. Change is inevitable, but some things should not change unless it is changing from bad to good. The bone structure of a person never changes, however, the outer tissue (flesh) of the body does. A person should never place more emphasis on the outward appearance than they do on the integral part of their being—their character.
What is your beauty secret? What part of you do you advertise when people meet you? What part of you do you want others to notice the most? As the person looks beyond the outward appearance, what will shine through? Is it your accomplishments; your money and material things; your looks and hairstyle; or your character that will burst into a thousand suns? My friend, the answer is what the beholder sees. The viewer will see exactly what you project. Some things cannot be helped; you will perform whatever qualities you subconsciously want to shine the most. Look at what kind of person you consistently attract to yourself, and your answer will lie therein.
People who love their image (God’s image) will never want to be recognized for anything else. Allow your beautiful self-awareness to shine through as the sun. If you learn to love whom God created you to be, you can learn to love and appreciate who God created others to be. Becoming simply lends itself to uncertainty; just ‘be’ is simple enough! No one truly likes a counterfeit.