Psychologists claim that the number one problem that people constantly confront is how they think about themselves. Are people actually wrestling with the concept of understanding themselves? To say the least, people generally illustrate the level of their self-esteem by how much they attempt to change their outward appearance rather than focusing on their inner self.
How you feel about yourself should be 10 percent exterior, and 90 percent interior. A person’s house can look immaculate on the outside, but unfortunately, people do not live outside of their homes. Feeling good about yourself begins with how you feel internally about you. If you place all your stock on your exterior, your self-esteem is actually unhealthy.
What if you gained 50 pounds or more or crashed into an on-coming vehicle while driving your car, and your face became severely scarred; or your health quickly deteriorated, leaving you physically incapacitated? Since how you feel about yourself is based mostly on your physical appearance, if any of these three things occurred, it would drive your self-esteem in the basement.
I am not suggesting that the exterior does not matter; but what I am alluding to is that you have a natural propensity to give more credence to a part of yourself that does not equate to your inner most recesses. Who determines if you are unattractive, weak, or worthless? It certainly cannot be other people; because they don’t live in your skin. You determined that how you feel is the way you are. This is the furthest from the truth. Your feelings (emotions) are the imagination (pictures) of your thoughts. Change what you think, and your feelings will shift as well. Do not simply think of yourself as incredible, believe that you are incredible; and thus, you will live an incredible life.
An Excerpt from Marianne Williamson, “Our Greatest Fear”
- Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
- Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
- It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
- We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?