Managing Your Emotions (Pt.2)

If you have not read Part One of this article, I suggest you read the first part of “Managing your Emotions Pt. 1” before reading this part.

Managing Emotions

Every person will experience various problems, with no exceptions. You need not think that your problems are unique and feel like the Lone Ranger. Problems or troubles are the bare necessities of life. Either you have a problem, you are the problem or you live with the problem. Having problems do not develop your character, as some would say; it is what you do while experiencing them… this is how your character is revealed. You cannot always stop dilemmas and difficulties from occurring, but you can certainly stop being the root cause of it.

Success, difficulties and failure are all vitally and organically linked. If you succeed without experiencing trouble and despair, it is because someone else has suffered before you. Do not allow your disappointments to get in the way while working on your project and later frustrate your efforts. Keep your attitude above your troubles, so that your vision does not become distorted. Unharnessed emotions can contaminate and adversely affect your motion in life and business. Knowing where to go is equally as important as knowing how to avoid the pitfalls to getting there.

Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles, which he has overcome while trying to succeed.
~Booker T. Washington

I am not suggesting that your emotions should be removed from the equation of your ability to plan or make rational decisions; but rather learning how to make calculated choices under the auspices of emotions-under-control. Meaning, you should not become so emotionally attached to something or someone that you cannot make a decision that is best for you, your family, or your business. The contaminated things or toxic people you keep around you, thinking you can deal with it on your own terms, will only leave you helpless and wounded. If you are in the process of trying to kick the addiction of alcohol, going into a bar to prove that you can handle being around liquor, may not be the best idea. By doing this, you put your emotions at a greater risk of you not being able to stand under the stress of the temptation to drink. Moreover, if unsuccessful, your feelings of despair will only exacerbate your weaknesses. This goes for any other addiction or bad habit you are trying to overcome.

When discipline is established, success is unavoidable. Discipline is not a bad word; it is an indispensable word relevant to your success. It suggests intensity not apathy. It is interwoven into the fabric of our society. It is a part of every person who understands his or her boundaries. Moreover, it keeps them confined to areas of their strengths, not their weaknesses. Becoming a regimented person will not make you a zombie. In fact, learning to control yourself will definitely help you to control other things around you.

Do not stop your emotions from moving, just direct what area you desire for your emotions to move.

I wrote this post to provoke your thoughts and to help you overcome adversities in the area of your emotions. I would like to hear how this post has helped you. Please leave your comments or at least “like” it. I look forward to reading your comments.

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