Sweet Little Lies
Are you the kind of person who would rather hear the truth or would you preferred hearing a lie? You might be surprised at how many people have a built-in mechanism that discourages them from hearing the truth. From celebrities to orphans, we have all at one time or another been opposed to hearing the truth when it relates to us personally. We have all heard the phrase, “The truth hurts!” before, but how many of us actually believe it. A good number of people have come to believe this and therefore when the truth is told to them, it actually hurts. If something hurts in your body, a person usually tries to pinpoint the pain and its source. For instance, if my right arm were hurting I would immediately attempt to determine if my pain was from my shoulder, elbow, back or waist. However, what could be hurting me when I am told the truth?
Hiding Behind Pride
Oftentimes, we go through life avoiding our personal issues and shortcomings by hiding behind a false sense of pride. That pride or ego becomes the protector of our feelings, shielding us from any truth that can cause us to surrender to the acknowledgment of our inadequacies. What happens when you hear the truth about something you have been avoiding…is that your ego or pride is damaged. This can actually be a good thing, if the individual no longer continues to lie to him or herself, but allows the truth to become therapeutic.
Truth is a Healing Balm
Because of the negative connotation we have heard about the truth all of our lives, it has made us mentally disabled and incapable of accepting the real value of “Truth.” The truth is actually a healing balm when properly used; it repositions the personality, reestablishes pride to its rightful posture, and makes one transparent and self-assured. Avoiding the truth damages the self-exalted, egotistical character leaving it exposed to feelings of being victimized and injured. This is not good for people who continue to misappropriate blame and channel it in a direction opposite of them. Needlessly to say, this kind of personality is deprived of the kind of relationships that build character and forge strength into integrity because they will attract people that lack character and have a propensity to surrender to their need of adulation-despite how artificial it is.
Pain is a Sign
If the truth hurts, it is because it wants to heal. Pain is actually a sign that the healing process is about to flow. It is also a sign that something is wrong internally and needs immediate attention. Something is terribly wrong when a person believes him or herself to be one way when to others they are not remotely close to their perceived self.
“Ego is simply an idea of who you are that you carry around with you.”
-Wayne Dyer
Whenever you believe yourself to be better than others because of your appearance, your wealth, and family heritage or celebrity statue – remember that you are just like everyone else on God’s green Earth…dirt.
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Pride is a huge issue, on both sides. For the person who can’t handle the truth, having to deal with the fact that they don’t have it altogether may be a hard thing. But then for the person who says, “I love when I hear the truth”, their pride can be in the fact that they can handle hearing it, but may falters in doing what is needed to make the changes needed. It’s hard to really see yourself and then know, you have to fix what you see. It’s easy said to suck it up, but who ever says how to change or the question should be do you want to change. Lord knows I see my issues, but I want my changes to be permanent and not just when I recognize my faults or am told of them.
That is what I have always thought and felt, but could never seem to articulate quite as exact. You try to be yourself or the self, that you’re comfortable in your own skin, in a manner of speaking. However, one can get easily caught up in superficial behaviors.
The act can domino into what is known as drama.
As much as anyone can try to avoid it, that will lead to a perception of antisocialism.
If we all took the time to self examine, and stop projecting our insecurities on other folks; we may possibly find a common ground toward positive dialog. Otherwise, it is just ground-hog day.
I love this blog and yes the truth hurts but it will also set you free.
I love this. I am very open to the truth (so I thought) til I heard it. It’s not easy to hear that who you think you are, is not how people perceive you. Humility and the desire to please God is the key to accept the truth, specially when it comes from someone close to you. I pray every day for God’s character to be formed in me and, that the spirit of God in me, gives testimony to other believers. I want and will continue to be me for that’s the way God intended it to be, I just want HIM inside of me.
I have to admit that I was one of those people Teddy was speaking of. I loved hearing the truth because I knew what it was capable of doing when applied properly and that it would indeed set me free, however I didn’t want to do what was necessary to bring those changes about in my life. That required me to swallow my pride and arrogance and admit that I needed help. I wasn’t about to do that.
Now I found that the truth is what I love to hear because I’ve seen the effects of it in my personal life and the lives of others. Dr. Brown I want to hear the truth. It’s offensive for someone to lie to me about anything. Look tell me like it is and pray God gives me an understanding. Sugar coating only waste time and eventually too much sugar will kill you.