Managing Your Emotions (Pt 1)
The ability to make exceptional critical decisions while experiencing highly emotional periods of frustration, disappointment, and possibly mild forms of depression, which can affect your future life or business, is usually predicated on the strength to manage your emotions. When your hopes in business are shattered by failure; or your first published book has not moved out of your garage; or your dream of succeeding in the music industry was shot down by some big-time music executive — allowing your emotions to get out of control, will easily cause you to become misdirected.
One of my business protégés once spoke out of his personal frustration because his company’s success was not coming as fast as he had anticipated. So, he made a ridiculous statement that he should just take his money and buy lottery tickets, thinking he will have a better chance at winning the lottery than being successful in business. You will be surprised how many of your business and personal life choices are made during times of stubbornness and inflexibility. Frustration and pigheadedness is a link to much of your anxiety that must be eliminated in order to reduce the severity of your problems.
“Whenever you’re confronted with a tough work situation, stop for a second and try to honestly answer this question: Am I approaching this emotionally or am I approaching this professionally?” –Suze Orman
Imagine you are a CEO of a company that has to answer to a board of twelve. One of the board members, (as if he is your worst nightmare) always shoots down your suggestions. Or, perhaps you are an accountant working in an accounting firm, where your boss thinks that you never have enough work. Your decision to remain cool, calm and collected under emotional pressure can be the difference of between success and failure.
If you are in any situation that is similar to these two previously stated scenarios, let me give you the simplest answer. Emotions are simply feelings in motion. If you can control your emotions, you can control the direction of your motion (action). Do not give your critics the satisfaction of seeing you as an emotional wreck.
Think about what you want to do, and how you want to act in a situation. Right action prevents poor reaction.
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UPDATED 06-17-11: Read the conclusion of this article, Go to “Managing your Emotions Pt. 2” now.



I love the blog updates dated 6-10-2011. I realized with this, that there were two blogs I had not read.
I too love the blog updates! Managing your emotions definitely deters you from reacting poorly. When I worked as an administrative supervisor of 5 employees, there were times I had to respond professionally rather than expressing my frustration toward those I supervised. The principle of not reacting to my emotions helps me in every area of life. Thank you Dr. Brown.
I like the fact that each topic has it’s own blog. Nice!
This particular topic is very pertinent right now, stepping back and performing an assessment of my life. Are my failures due to my difficulty to allocate, (my one thing word this year) and/or step back not allowing my emotions to rule me? How much of my life disappointments are due to my lack of restraint of my emotions? How should I handle my frustrations? Wow….I’m thinking. Thank you Dr. Brown
Thank you Dr. Brown. That was great information. This is my first time exploring this website but the setup is very nice. Thank you.
Thank you for responding to my blog. I hope that the information is relevant for your situation. God bless you all.
Hello Dr.Brown, You may not remember me but I remember you. I must say I still watch on TV and thank you encouragement from the blog. I need to hear that story. My business is not doing great right now, but I am trusting God because he gave us this vision. We do let life get in the way. I am determined to do this business. God said to do it and it shall be done.
Thank you
God Bless